Posted by: Femme Fatale December 11, 2009
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Let me just say that through relatives personal experiences in this matter, it is not inconceivable that somebody would marry to go abroad. At least 4 of my relatives have had arranged marriages, where they went to Nepal to seek a wife and brought them back here. All those women have said they just married to get out of Nepal. Obviously the person they told behind closed doors told me so i know it came straight from the horses mouths. Well those women don't even like their husbands! (again from horses mouth) They are just going along with their routines and i am really mindboggled as to how they can do this day in and day out! Coming abroad away from their families in Nepal to a complete strangers house and family, performing their wifely duties in their own personal way if u understand me....!
I think people are shooting themselves in the foot if they get arranged
marriages. It just isn't healthy. But if it works out nicely for u like
u begin to love each other and have a happy marriage, then you
definitely are rare lucky ones!
My own experience: My family were also trying to fix me up with some dudes too. They aren't the forcing kind though thankfully! Well i met a particular dude, he had some good criterias, educations, business, morals, family, personality.....etc..... but i just could not take it all seriously...my heart didn't connect with him, it really felt all systamatic because it was a set up where everyone knew and wanted a Yes or No answer after. I like to have control over my own destiny. Of course i said No to the whole arranged deal, never again, i did try it and i hated it. We only got one life and i want to spend with someone i love before marrying him. I guess im the romanticism type of gal. So i'm just goin to have to go out there and find someone myself someway somehow. I'm willing to wait.
Quaggy, i'm not sure which 'The Dude' u are referring to there mate, did u think i was one of your FB friends...? Gawd. Hahaha....you're funny! Well i'll be happy to be an 'IT' to u. So cute. :)