Posted by: Mr. Hyde August 6, 2009
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Stop with all that BS such as having the same political views,
religion, cultural background, education, career path, interests and
mutual understanding and bla bla.... they all look good in the books
but not in real life.It all boils down to one thing, Will you compromise with the things you like for her?
The more the difference between the partners the less the chances of
mending the relationship especially when the relationship goes down-hill or is under
stress-test.
Difference in subscription of political-view causes this to happen. It was in 1990 circa, on election day, a "Congressi" husband locked up his wife so
that she could not go and cast her vote for the UML.
Difference in religion: Say one is hindu and the other a muslim and wish to remain same. Everything is good for a while. Then something happens they did not plan for...When the children are come, which
religion should the children be brought up under Hinduism or Islam.
And how about throwing in the religious observations of both Hinduism and Islam into the mix.
The view of balance between Career Aspirations and Family Life. This
should be discussed well in advance because balancing family life is as
important as winning the bread (in our case I guess Rice). Sometimes
work requires sacrifices and the partner in crime has to be
understanding and working out something should be feasible quickly if not at the snap
of a finger.
Will you compromise with the things you like for her?
Easier said than done. Why
would you want to compromise of the pursuit of childhood dreams when
you can find someone else who can put up with you on that? After all isn't
life all about, life itself, liberty and pursuit of happiness? When time arrives to face the compromises whose duty is to do the compromising part you or your partner, you better decide before hand cause it's human nature to stand his/her own ground when the situation arrives.
Are you getting married for yourself or for your parents?
(That's a classic question I understand and most people tend to answer that with a lot of empathy for the hero and "heroni" in the Bollywood movie.
)
Lemme ask you, can you replace your parents? But as far as life partner goes, JeLo has replaced several husbands already even before hitting forty. But I don't think she can replace her mom who also happens to be a mega-bucks lottery winner.
My view regarding parents and life-partner pick is this you make your own decision but give pretty good consideration to suggestion or inputs from parents who are your most important allies in life that you will ever encounter.
Life in itself so complicated already why would you want to make it worse by marrying a woman/man based on faith in current love and promise of compromises but with less consideration on practicality.
When betting on something always expect the unexpected, prepare for it and you will turn out just fine.
religion, cultural background, education, career path, interests and
mutual understanding and bla bla.... they all look good in the books
but not in real life.It all boils down to one thing, Will you compromise with the things you like for her?
The more the difference between the partners the less the chances of
mending the relationship especially when the relationship goes down-hill or is under
stress-test.
Difference in subscription of political-view causes this to happen. It was in 1990 circa, on election day, a "Congressi" husband locked up his wife so
that she could not go and cast her vote for the UML.
Difference in religion: Say one is hindu and the other a muslim and wish to remain same. Everything is good for a while. Then something happens they did not plan for...When the children are come, which
religion should the children be brought up under Hinduism or Islam.
And how about throwing in the religious observations of both Hinduism and Islam into the mix. The view of balance between Career Aspirations and Family Life. This
should be discussed well in advance because balancing family life is as
important as winning the bread (in our case I guess Rice). Sometimes
work requires sacrifices and the partner in crime has to be
understanding and working out something should be feasible quickly if not at the snap
of a finger.
Will you compromise with the things you like for her?
Easier said than done. Why
would you want to compromise of the pursuit of childhood dreams when
you can find someone else who can put up with you on that? After all isn't
life all about, life itself, liberty and pursuit of happiness? When time arrives to face the compromises whose duty is to do the compromising part you or your partner, you better decide before hand cause it's human nature to stand his/her own ground when the situation arrives.
Are you getting married for yourself or for your parents?
(That's a classic question I understand and most people tend to answer that with a lot of empathy for the hero and "heroni" in the Bollywood movie.
)Lemme ask you, can you replace your parents? But as far as life partner goes, JeLo has replaced several husbands already even before hitting forty. But I don't think she can replace her mom who also happens to be a mega-bucks lottery winner.
My view regarding parents and life-partner pick is this you make your own decision but give pretty good consideration to suggestion or inputs from parents who are your most important allies in life that you will ever encounter.Life in itself so complicated already why would you want to make it worse by marrying a woman/man based on faith in current love and promise of compromises but with less consideration on practicality.
When betting on something always expect the unexpected, prepare for it and you will turn out just fine.