Generally I go by Name+jee ,,, I know its difficult sometime,,,, I have so many female frens who are married now,,, Its hard coz most of my female frens are married to guys 6 or 7 years older than me,,,, its difficult but i still calll Name+jee,,,
I tell all my fren to call my wife by her name not as "bhauju" ...  but many dont.
I hate being called vinaju by my wifes' frens... I tell them to call by my name too... and almost all do.