Posted by: dekchidriver February 18, 2009
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Hey oom,
This happens a lot with people. Its just some can control it better than the others. Doesn't mean you can't do it as well. It takes some practice, like the good folks here have been telling you.
The reason I felt nervous whenever I had a presentation or speech was because I was foreign. Will these people understand me?? I consider myself to be pretty adept in the English language but when it comes to the vices of speaking it, it has my balls in a grip.
And smoothcriminal has some pretty good points about it. IF you think they're gonna look down on you, they will, if you think they're gonna just gawk at you without understanding anything, IF you think they're gonna laugh at your jokes, THEY WILL :) its all about what you're thinking about yourself at that point. So like smoothcriminal said, dont give a fk about wt anyone is thinking about you.
We were raised in the confines of our samaj and we have the subconcious fear "samaj le k bhancha". Well time to let go of that thought because its never going to work out if you feel that way.
Most kuires are rarely judgemental. The reason that some of us have a hard time mixing with them is because they donot know how to approach us and respect our boundaries and maintain their distance. Its not that they reproach you or anything. The judgemental ones are the barbie dolls, the materialistic bags of clays, watch out for those and you should make some great friends who will have a huge impact on you and your stay in this country.
Peace.
This happens a lot with people. Its just some can control it better than the others. Doesn't mean you can't do it as well. It takes some practice, like the good folks here have been telling you.
The reason I felt nervous whenever I had a presentation or speech was because I was foreign. Will these people understand me?? I consider myself to be pretty adept in the English language but when it comes to the vices of speaking it, it has my balls in a grip.
And smoothcriminal has some pretty good points about it. IF you think they're gonna look down on you, they will, if you think they're gonna just gawk at you without understanding anything, IF you think they're gonna laugh at your jokes, THEY WILL :) its all about what you're thinking about yourself at that point. So like smoothcriminal said, dont give a fk about wt anyone is thinking about you.
We were raised in the confines of our samaj and we have the subconcious fear "samaj le k bhancha". Well time to let go of that thought because its never going to work out if you feel that way.
Most kuires are rarely judgemental. The reason that some of us have a hard time mixing with them is because they donot know how to approach us and respect our boundaries and maintain their distance. Its not that they reproach you or anything. The judgemental ones are the barbie dolls, the materialistic bags of clays, watch out for those and you should make some great friends who will have a huge impact on you and your stay in this country.
Peace.