Posted by: prembirahi January 6, 2009
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While this what your wrote
describes well the experience of being in love or the so called
romantic love, I already long ago understood that it is not the love
that I should seek into the center of my life. Please do not take this
as criticism, as it is not. It is more a reflection I wish to provide
for your use.
To long for that bonding, connection,
loss of self into the arms of another is very natural and deep longing
in us. However, solving that through another person is quite
illusionary. As the true solution is inside ourselves. In solving our
past hurt and pain we are truly liberated and through that liberation
we see, that the illusionary
protection of falling in love
or being in love is not what we really need. First it feels about the
same, but being in love "wears out" very fast (up to 5 years) and in
the end nothing is solved.
What we really want is to
be whole and healthy. To love and accept ourselves fully. When in that
state, we are truly ready to meet another person and to really give
from ourselves without wishing anything back. Only in that state we can
create true relationships with others that last the turmoil of life and
that bring deep and fulfilling satisfaction into our lives. That is the
exchange what I call true love. That is where our aim is wisely placed.
What
I want to say is just "wake up and look into yourself!" What are you
doing? Is this REALLY what you need and want now into your life? Don't
think tomorrow. Think 10+ years. And think wisely.
It is
just that I went through that path and had nothing after in my hand.
How meaningless it was. Or it was not, but it was a slow and tough way
to learn what I really needed to learn.
describes well the experience of being in love or the so called
romantic love, I already long ago understood that it is not the love
that I should seek into the center of my life. Please do not take this
as criticism, as it is not. It is more a reflection I wish to provide
for your use.
To long for that bonding, connection,
loss of self into the arms of another is very natural and deep longing
in us. However, solving that through another person is quite
illusionary. As the true solution is inside ourselves. In solving our
past hurt and pain we are truly liberated and through that liberation
we see, that the illusionary
protection of falling in love
or being in love is not what we really need. First it feels about the
same, but being in love "wears out" very fast (up to 5 years) and in
the end nothing is solved.
What we really want is to
be whole and healthy. To love and accept ourselves fully. When in that
state, we are truly ready to meet another person and to really give
from ourselves without wishing anything back. Only in that state we can
create true relationships with others that last the turmoil of life and
that bring deep and fulfilling satisfaction into our lives. That is the
exchange what I call true love. That is where our aim is wisely placed.
What
I want to say is just "wake up and look into yourself!" What are you
doing? Is this REALLY what you need and want now into your life? Don't
think tomorrow. Think 10+ years. And think wisely.
It is
just that I went through that path and had nothing after in my hand.
How meaningless it was. Or it was not, but it was a slow and tough way
to learn what I really needed to learn.