Posted by: transparent_eyes December 29, 2008
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Hey Sunshine,
I know the pain you are in this moment. I faced a similar incident and live with it everyday. My previous bf died in a car accident, and it took me a while to get back to normal. I was devasted, hurt and in a turmoil of pain...I was unable to do anything, I couldn't focus on my studies or go to work, refused intake of food, totally cut off my ties from the outside world. I would stay home idly, and drown my self in a river of tears....and I always wished that it should have been me in the accident that day..... Its been 5 years now... and I still think of him every now and then.....I'm not just telling you my story to tell you about my misery... I want you move on with life... I know it is hard, but you need to get the ducks in the row... you have to think of the things you want to achieve in life.... think of your aim in life... think of your goal...I'm sure you wanted a career as well...you can't let love get you down...if you are a student, focus on your studies, .... if you work.... get busy with it.... the important thing is to GET BUSY! Keeping your self busy will give you less time to think of the past, and you will get occupied. Time heals everything, thats what they say and it holds truth to it, Slowly you need to make a STEP to move on....
The things that kept my busy...
1)I would go running , and I still do -everyday, it keeps me at ease - So, hit the gym !
2) I would spend little time as possible at home- I would only come to sleep or eat.
3) I spent more time at the library reading the newspapers, and doing homeworks.
4) I used to work extra shifts at work- I worked 40 hrs/week and took 15 credits
5) I Spend more time with friends
Thats how I kept myself extremely busy....and after a while, I got used to it....So, i would suggest you keep your self busy some how and talk to your friends in person and over the phone, talk about your pain with them. Never keep things to yourself. Talking to someone will pacify you and make you feel better.
Lastly, Be happy for him, he did get married..which is a big deal! ... wish him all the best.... and move on....
Take care girlfriend .
I know the pain you are in this moment. I faced a similar incident and live with it everyday. My previous bf died in a car accident, and it took me a while to get back to normal. I was devasted, hurt and in a turmoil of pain...I was unable to do anything, I couldn't focus on my studies or go to work, refused intake of food, totally cut off my ties from the outside world. I would stay home idly, and drown my self in a river of tears....and I always wished that it should have been me in the accident that day..... Its been 5 years now... and I still think of him every now and then.....I'm not just telling you my story to tell you about my misery... I want you move on with life... I know it is hard, but you need to get the ducks in the row... you have to think of the things you want to achieve in life.... think of your aim in life... think of your goal...I'm sure you wanted a career as well...you can't let love get you down...if you are a student, focus on your studies, .... if you work.... get busy with it.... the important thing is to GET BUSY! Keeping your self busy will give you less time to think of the past, and you will get occupied. Time heals everything, thats what they say and it holds truth to it, Slowly you need to make a STEP to move on....
The things that kept my busy...
1)I would go running , and I still do -everyday, it keeps me at ease - So, hit the gym !
2) I would spend little time as possible at home- I would only come to sleep or eat.
3) I spent more time at the library reading the newspapers, and doing homeworks.
4) I used to work extra shifts at work- I worked 40 hrs/week and took 15 credits
5) I Spend more time with friends
Thats how I kept myself extremely busy....and after a while, I got used to it....So, i would suggest you keep your self busy some how and talk to your friends in person and over the phone, talk about your pain with them. Never keep things to yourself. Talking to someone will pacify you and make you feel better.
Lastly, Be happy for him, he did get married..which is a big deal! ... wish him all the best.... and move on....
Take care girlfriend .