Hi All,

Been a frequent sajhagoer for the past year or so. Came across enjoyable and informative as well as threads that made no sense but its all fun. And there were threads dedicated to misfortunes in relationships. And this thread deals with similar fate. 

I have a story to tell and a question to seek answer for. Its a long story and would take days to narrate but I will keep it short. Was intimate with a girl for several years, exchanged all that romantic vows etc that culminated into marriage date. As the marriage date approaced nearer, I still had no savings (was working for meager salary) and could not keep my promise that resulted into her family forbidding her to break up with me. I was humiliated and talked down. I couldn't take all that and flew to US and worked hard. Again, we got back together and started to support both her and my family. Finally, I was able to go back home with a heavenly thought that we will tie the note and setlle down here. But who knew that she would take that step that will throw me, my family and friends right off the smooth sailing ship. It happened one day, after my exams, I called her home as usual to tell her I am done with the semester and coming home to engulf you in my arms forever. Her mother picks up the phone and said what felt like molten lava flowing into my ears. Anyway, I flew back and met her. She broke down to tears and said she made a biggest mistake of her life and I said - sure you did. There is no rewinding now. I found out from my friends that she was dating someone while I was working by butt off. Spending my hard earned money very wisely - I suppose.

Now the thing is, she kept calling my sister's house even after I told her everything between us died that very day when she started seeing someone, when she betrayed me. Again tried to touch base with me when I was back recently. Was loyal to her and everyone knows how US life is. Go to work or college and come home exhausted longing for only one thing - warm bed. Now, happily settled down but she haunts me every now and then and I guess memories are hard to fade.

Simple question - what is the remedy for complete brain wash to prevent such hauntings???