dallas_guy, agreed. i see no harm in posting your problems and asking for suggestions.
 your laying it out in public, but not really. you don't know who i am and viceversa. your friends and family won't know, your wife won't find out. so who cares! it's just asking for some good suggestion here. you need to be able to filter it out as someone pointed. posting here is way better than keeping it to yourself or sharing it to your friends. personally i hate to share every single problem in lovelife with friends. no matter how good your friends are, they'll make something out of it.
coming back to your issue, a lot of people have given you real good suggestions. it's a common problem among couples. good communication is the key. from your posts i can see that you are a pretty reasonable man with a sense of nepalipan(which some ppl seem to forget). anyways, had it been your gf, your better off without her. but since she's your wife, you should work it out. setting the priorities for both of you. you let go a little and she'll let go a few things. it's all about how well you can compromise.