Dallas_guy,

Though I have not entered the life of marital bliss yet and have not faced any problems like you have, I think you need to clear the air soon before it chokes you. Having thoughts that your wife does not love you anymore is a little extreme because she is supposed to be your life partner.. your other half. I think the best thing to do is sit with her.. when she is in a pleasant mood and tell her what you told us. Do not sound accusing when you do that... tell her all this in a neutral tone. She needs to understand that you have needs and wants too and when those are not satisfied.. they lead to bad feelings! Which is eventually going to destroy your relationship.

I would recommend you going to a marriage counselor or couple therapy if you think you cant solve the differences amongst yourselves. In the end of the day you have to decide what it important to you and so does she. I would not suggest you to have separate accounts as that might distance the two of you and when you already doubt her love for you... that would not be a smart move. Talk it out and if that doesnt help.. let others help you (professionals). I hope the air clears between the two.. and you lead a blissful married life. :)