This is the NOT just your story.Relationship/Love passes through many stages before it takes the concrete form.

1.BlackBox Period:initial stage.truly,deeply,madly in love period.blinded by love, brainwashed by attraction.he is smart, he is cool, he is good looking.he is loyal.oh! well, he is DIFFERENT. 

2.WhiteBox Period:shortcomings and limitations surface.you speak your language, he speaks his. he cares less, takes you as granted.insults and abusive words are hurled at each other.he smokes, drinks and mr. loyal  seizes every possible opportunity to flirt with any two-legged female in the real as well as virtual vicinity.does everything which you don't like.you want to change him, he resists.

3. Internal acceptance:crucial phase.you come to the terms of his limitations and flaws.either you love him for what he is or you conclude that you could do without him.( i believe you are in this phase. it's up to you to decide whether his disrespect is acceptable or not.if not then it's useless to continue.coz it's the most recurring thing.decision is yours, alina)

4.Social Acceptance:the case is in the court of papa/momma.social background check-positive. momma dear likes her would be son-in-law, papa has no problems with the boy's father.Drum Rolls....
Output: successful union.

good luck, girl.