Posted by: simonsaurav August 21, 2008
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First, take some time to yourself to reflect/think about what went wrong. What is it that made your relation bad?
1) Is it something the other person did? Why did he/she do it? What did you do to get it? Was it that you did something first and then he/she did to you that you don't like? Can you think about it? If yes, then the problem is perhaps within you. You should improve yourself first and treat the other person the way you want to be treated. Tell him/her that you are sorry and explain why things happened the way they did. Talk about how you will be different now on and how you want the other person to reciprocate (return favor). Begin life anew and live everyday like it's the only day you have to live.
2) Was it done without provocation? Is it he/she who treats you badly all the time no matter how you treat the other person? Does this other person ever realize that he/she is hurting you?
If this other person always treats you badly and does not realize how you feel, then there is a problem with that person. Talk to him/her. Make him realize his/her problem. If that person realizes it and changes for the good, that's the best that could happen out of a bad relationship. Not only will you have your relationship turn around, you will also have taught a valuable life lesson to a person and in the process earn new respect. Together commit to live happily by treating each other well.
3) Or is it just that you don't like the person? If that's the case, you should not have been in that relationship in the first place. Why are you in that relationship? If it's just boredom of living with the same person, then think twice before breaking up because it's going to be the same with any other new person. The newness loses all its appeal in a few months' time and you will be back to square one again. Therefore, talk with this person. Let that person know what it is that you don't like about. Can he/she see that and change that? Does that person also have a comment about you? How do you respond to that? Try to work out a solution that works for both. If not, walk out of that relationship.
4) If it was a short-term relationship forged through infatuation or visual appeal only, say bye bye. There is no point in maintaining it. But if it's a long term relationship (like marriage), do you want it to work or break? If you want it to work, then you have to do your part before you decide to quit because quitting is easy but life is more complex than that.
1) Is it something the other person did? Why did he/she do it? What did you do to get it? Was it that you did something first and then he/she did to you that you don't like? Can you think about it? If yes, then the problem is perhaps within you. You should improve yourself first and treat the other person the way you want to be treated. Tell him/her that you are sorry and explain why things happened the way they did. Talk about how you will be different now on and how you want the other person to reciprocate (return favor). Begin life anew and live everyday like it's the only day you have to live.
2) Was it done without provocation? Is it he/she who treats you badly all the time no matter how you treat the other person? Does this other person ever realize that he/she is hurting you?
If this other person always treats you badly and does not realize how you feel, then there is a problem with that person. Talk to him/her. Make him realize his/her problem. If that person realizes it and changes for the good, that's the best that could happen out of a bad relationship. Not only will you have your relationship turn around, you will also have taught a valuable life lesson to a person and in the process earn new respect. Together commit to live happily by treating each other well.
3) Or is it just that you don't like the person? If that's the case, you should not have been in that relationship in the first place. Why are you in that relationship? If it's just boredom of living with the same person, then think twice before breaking up because it's going to be the same with any other new person. The newness loses all its appeal in a few months' time and you will be back to square one again. Therefore, talk with this person. Let that person know what it is that you don't like about. Can he/she see that and change that? Does that person also have a comment about you? How do you respond to that? Try to work out a solution that works for both. If not, walk out of that relationship.
4) If it was a short-term relationship forged through infatuation or visual appeal only, say bye bye. There is no point in maintaining it. But if it's a long term relationship (like marriage), do you want it to work or break? If you want it to work, then you have to do your part before you decide to quit because quitting is easy but life is more complex than that.