We use Bhaat Bhuja ....RICE whatever MAN whatsyour problem..........Ill speak anyform fo language I want and Will continue.................Just because some people consider them selves superior and uses that language and imposes it on others ...........doesnt mean Everyone does it. I dont go to my friends house where TAPAI is the respect and start using GARIBAKSYOS to show my superriority. I do it to my DAD, MOM and anyone who is older in our whole family circle.  I know what your problem is..............YOU FEEL INFERRIOR........................................just dont feel like that...........why do you feeel like that......????I know rest of nepal doesnt speak like that but all dialects has straight language and the respecting form.....SO DOES NEPALI.....................you dont have to tell me about who uses it ....how to use it..where to use it OR NOT TO USE IT ALL............because we will............and guess what.......I am a Mixed..... Thakuri and cheettry baun and Bhote(Lama)..........ANd we use this form of Language..where as all my relatives in Boudha .....speaks plain Tapai language......VS family in my Thakuri and chettey baun speak HAJUR........and guess what I am married to A Newar......of Jyapu caste.........And when I visit her family.....most even dont speak Neplali and I am learning Newar to impress them......MY family had no problem with our relation In fact.....three of my Thakuri cousins of RANA origins are married to Newars too and a couple of my cousins are married to Sherpa. Tibbetans and Gurung with no PROBLEM.and ONE of my relative is married to a THARU.......(still accepted. in the family)..we have a grand Dashain and great family parties............LANGUAGES LIKE TA ...TIMI< TAPAI HAJUR ARE THROWN ALL OVER without any hard feelings..everyone uses what is comfortable .....PEOPLE LIKE YOU CREATE PROBLEMS OF CASTE AND INFERIORITY......WE HAVE ONE UNIQUE FAMILY...........