Thanks coffee333............that is exactly what I mean.......SO in new Nepal I have to go back and start this whole new talk with my family and elders??........tapai and Timi.?? there is nothing wrong with that form of nepali language  but I dont think I can. ............and  for many people that might me natural way of family communication but For us that is apart of out life, our culture, the way I was taught and so will my kids learn to speak. ITS JUST A LANGUAGE LIKE ANY OTHER IN NEPAL only difference it is more artistic and full of high respect versed terminology. And we use it within family only too. if I had to speak to some one like a non family on the street I simply use.....tapailai kasto chha dai??/ versus If I meet an uncle after a long time Ill use ......Uncle Hajur lai Aaraamai chha??...see the difference.....To feel degrated for not using this language is just personal insecurity of who you are.........IT IS JUST A FORM OF LANGUAGE certain groups of nepal speak just a LANGUAGE.....never meant to harm anyones feelings..otherwise why would my parents teach me this if it were to create degration. They taught me because thats how all our relatives speak. They call URDU the worlds most beautiful language............Because they use AAP...instead of tum..............is that also wrong.....like someone demanding respect.???? well first sign of a commie rule is to snatch peoples right of freedom of speech. ........THINK.