The bottom line is not to get married with someone who has spent painful years studying and supporting himself and now has has a decent job in the US, and is 10 years older than you; marry with someone your age ( 23 , who goes to school full time and works illegally in a dhoti store, 7/11, or restaurant) you can see him couple of hours a week.

or........

get married with a 23-25 year old lafanga in Nepal who spends his whole day spending his father's corrupted money in dance bars..........