she must b a really strong person. she is going thru all this and she's still being humorous and playful with u. a person like her should b able to stand on her own and talk about her issues with her husband. obviously the problem seems to b the age difference and her husband's frustration with american life.

c she said that he's here for 9 whole yrs and he hasn't even traveled to another state. that's quite problematic. i'm not trying to b a doctor but focusing on these things the problem is with himself. after all they r married now, so first anita should try to change his ways before thinking about giving up and leaving him. i know how sick it feels to b with a person like that but a relationship can b fostered only if both partners r dedicated.

hey anita try some new ways like insisting him to travel beautiful places preferably out of the state. take him to exciting gathering and parties. ask him to help u with household works like cooking. share your past life and ur interests.

telling him about his bad habits can hurt him so ask his old frens to point out his negative points when u all r together( in a playful way). ask him about his day after work. tell him what makes u happy. how can he change himself and his ways unless he doesn't know about ur preferences and ur likeness.

give it a shot. even it didn't help then just one wheel can't pull the cart ahead. he must not b interested in the relationship either. desert him.

good luck.