there are good suggestions up there.  i also agree with newkt and few others that life is not a fairy tale.  since you are already married, you should try your best to work this out.  you are new here in usa, it takes sometime to know the life style and hard work people do over here.  there is nothing wrong with anita's husband working hard.  however, he should allow her to study as well if she wants to.  try to workout before making any decision.  if he also does nt love anita and harrasing her, then anita can think of somethign else.  otherwise, both need to workout.  like someone said, its not only about you, its abut so many lives associated with you two.