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I typed ''La thik chha aba ma janchhu la, feri bhetaula ni hai''

-La la aba busy manchhe lai k bhanne, bholi aauchhau online?

Khai heru, aba yeta rat parda uta din hunchha...(Though she knows Im in Europe)

-La yedi milchha bhane aau la...bholi

Bholi? I will try ni,

-La thank hai. la aba jau timrai taruni sanga

hahaha , ani bholi timro buda gharmai ho? La mero pani hi bhandeu la.

-Ok sure, but he may not be here.

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-Hey  sanchai? She started now

A sanchai ani timi ni?

-Yep, life goes on

Kina ho yesto Birakta? Dherai Narayn Gopal ko git sunera ho? (I always connect situation with songs LOl)

- (She said nothing)

Eh Anita, maile timilai 2-4 din dekhi timro married life ko kura sodhdai chhu tara kina ho timile ta kehi pani bhaninau ni? Ani budako barema pani kehi bhana na.

-Eh..bhanula ni, k ko hatar..a bhana na baru timro GF ko bareama? GF haru ta tanna hola ni hai?

Yestai ta ho ni k GF, aja club ma bhetyo bholi bihana uthda ''who are u'' bhanchhan

-hahhahaha Yo bajyale sarai hasaune bhayo LOL

La la dherai kura nalukau, timro married life ko kura bhana....

-ok sure, I will.

Ani aru......

(Yestai yestai huda kura sakiyo)

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I knew she was trying to hide someting and I was digging, it made me curious to know her new life in detail. this afternoon I got a long mail from her, I cant directly post the mail here so I re-write her loooooooong email here (trying to summarise the main points)

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Hi Amazing, timi sanga dherai pachhi kura garna pauda Im so glad. Ma yeti khushi chhu ki bhanna sakdina. Timile mero married life ko barema sodheko sodheko garyou. Mero biha bhayako 1 barsha bhayo ani Boston aayako 7 mahina. Sakesamma yo kura kasailai nabhanu bhaneki thiye but u keep digging the same thing so I must disclsoe here. Timilai ta thaha chha, I rather stay quiet but dont lie.

Hamro bhet nabhayako pani 5-6 barsha bhayo so I dont know if its good idea to share my private life with you but it seems u were really curious to know so im sharing. Never think in other way.

About my husband, his name is Ramesh Adhikari and he is from Palpa, he is here in US for last 9 years. Hamro biha ekdum hatar ma bhayako ho. I donot know why my parents were in great hurry. Maile bhaneki tiye ki malai biha garne hatar chhaina bhanera but they were forcing me a lot and lot. Yesto keta kaha painchha ra bhanthe. But I did not have any affair with anyone, just I wanted to study further and thought it was too quick to get married. Mero bihe hune belama ma Tansen mai BBS 2nd year padhdai thiye.

U know im a very simple girl and I never had big dream to come to any foreign country. Ani hamro family background pani timilai thaha chha. Mero biha yeti chhito bhayo ki malai afailai bishwas chhaina. Mangalbar keta herna aaye ani Sombar bihe bhayo. Malie kati bhane mummy bubalai ma biha gardina bhanera tara uhaharu mero agadi runubhayo ''Chhori yesto mauka gumaunu hudaina bhanera''. Ani malai pani sarhai dukha lagyo. Timilai ekdum sukhi rakchha, keto ramro chha, khandani ho, Amrikako Card chha re bhanera ekdum fakaunu bhayo.

Frankly bhannu parda, malai bihe garne mann nai thiyena. Ma padhchhu bhanera bhane ani Ketale ''Padhne bhaye ta Amerika pani ta painchha ni'' bhanyo re. Tyai pani ma biha garna bhanda pahila ajha ek patak keta sanaga bhetchhu bhanda Mummy Buba risaunu bhayo ''Talai kina yeti janni huna paryo'' bhannu bho. Yestai yestai bho mero biha bhayo.

Biha bhayepchhi manakamana, Pokhara, Nagarkot ghumna gayou. Ani 10 din mai budha Amrika farke. Then he came again after 5 months to bring me. Our age difference is 11 years.  he loves me tara kina ho kina Malai patakkai mann pardaina. Uhako ra mero bichar nai patakkai mlidaina. He is neither American nor Nepali. Maile bujhnai sakina. Hunata its beginnig, I hope it will be better gradually. I never like him. For him WORK is the first priority. Amrika baseko 9 barsha bhayo re he has never been to othe state. I tried hard to change him but its v v diffcult.

When I said I want to study here he was so angry ''Kina padhnu paryo aba, aba khurukka kam garne,  tyatro dollars kharcha garera padhna sakidaina''. I dont know what he is saying now. I dont like anything about him, his music taste, his sleeping habits, his attitude, his laziness, his clothing style. Malai kehi pani mann pardaina. He knows nothing about life. Sarai achammako manchhe. Malai ta budha bhanna pani laj lagchha. His attitude is different. He thinks he is the most demanding Nepali becoz he has Green Card. Usko lagi Amrika ma aayeka sabai Nepaliharu barabar re. Ek din- dui din ta hunchha tara kasari yesto manchhe sanga jindagi janchha? And there are many other factors too.

Ma sadhai yo kura samjhera eklai runchhu. Maile ajha samma kasailai pani yo kura bhaneik chhaina. Pleaes please kasalai nabhana la. Maile kehi gare bhane gharma mummu bubalai kati dukha hunchha hola. Sadhai gharbata fone aauchha, ekdum thik chha bhanchhu.....kahilyai pani yesto kura bhaneki chhaina. ani phone garepachhi eklai rudai baschhu.

Ani malai yo americako life pani mann parena. aba afno manchhe nai yesto bhayepachhi amrika ta jasto bhaye pani ke bhayo ra? Mann milne koi sathi pani chhainan. Yesto jindagima ramauna sakdina. Ma ke garu ke garu bhai rakhay chha. Saritale asti Hongkong bata phone garda timro phone no diyepachhi malai kati khushi lagyo. tara please yo kura kasailai nabhana la,

La ba timi nai bhana ma ke garu? Ma Ramesh sanga basna sakdina hola....jindagi bitauna garho chha, bharkhar ta ma 23 barsha bhaye. Yedi maile kehi naramro kadam uthaye bhane gharma katti naramro asar parla? Mummy bubalai samajle ke bhanla? Malai ta hamro samaj dekhera pani sarhai ghreena lagchha. Keta manchhe le je garepani hune. Samaj ra pariwarko khyal nagarne bhaye maiel pahila nai arkai kadam uthauthe tara janma dine ama baulai chitta dukhanuau hudaina. Malai k sochnuhunchha hola...tara ma yesari jindagi bitauna sakdina.

Sayad ma US ma basdina hola. ma Rameshlai sabai kura bhanera kura final garchhu but Im not sure if he will leave me like this. Tara ma jasari bhaye pani US chhodchhu. Nepal ma gayera basna pani samajle k k bhanne ho malai. Ahile ma gharma Ramesh nabhayako bela net ma IELTS practice garchhu, ra Sept 2008 intake ko lagi tayari garchhu. Ek mannle US mai basau jasto lagchha tara feri arulai bhanne bato hunchha, Amrka aunako lagi biha gari bhanne  arop lagla tyasaile aba Australia tira try garchhu. Tyata tira pani yeso college herdai rakha na hai mero lagi. Tara timile anyatha nalinu. I know I wont like u too

Mero mannma ajkal sadhai yestai yestai kura kheli rahanchha. Mero jindagi yesto hola bhanera socheki thiyena. Ghar pariwarma maile ke bhanera mukh dekhaune hola.. malai samajle ke bhanla? Rameshko ke hola? Mummy Bubako mann kati dukhla, sathibhaile ke bhanlan? Yi sabai kura samjhida mero yehi jindagi nai thik ho jasto lagchha tara ma ramesh sanga patakkai basna sakdina. Aba bhana ma ke garu?

Please yo kura kasailai nabhana la

Oohi dukhi sathi

Anita Bhandari, Boston

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Oh My God, I was so hocked to read this mail and called her immediately. She cried on the phone. She could not speak even a word. I too cried. I felt really bad for her. I just shared this story here in sajha so that she would get some suggestions. I told her abt www.sajha.com and took her permission to write abt our conversation/email, though name has been changed for the obvious reason.