Honesty is the major issue here i guess. During this X-MAS if magic happened and u find him good enough for you initially (getting along in conversation, humor, good looking and everything) and if he wants to comit a relationship with you, then the next step would be to be honest and ask him questions. This is the way to go i guess. But don't it the other way round. Guys gets freaked out if you do it the second way, atleast i would get freaked out. Keep your mind open and get into conversation with guys.

I wish i could get you that shades with terminator vision showing all the profiles while you see........