Yes, that to-be mother-in-law is right. You can never be an American, like I can never be a Malaysian. Citizenship or PR status or Birth certificate cannot nurture patriotism. That comes from the heart. You've heard the quote "Tiny drops of water make a mighty ocean"..meaning if every single Nepali would make up his mind to help his countryman grow, even in the smallest possible way, you have done your part for the country. And I'm not refering to sending money as a token of love. I'm refering to service in kind, not in cash. Ah yes! The American Dream! What a hype! But its good to dream though. Do you know that Americans are excellent in business strategies? By helping others achieve their dreams, the country flourishes. Likewise, if you can help someone back home achieve their dream, your country will flourish. And how have I helped your country? By continuously serving the poor and needy. With the help of family and friends, I've held a free medical camp for an orphanage in Pokhara; distributed stationeries and toys; distributed T-shirts for porters who work as mountain trekkers; conducted Anti-Smoking Awareness programs in schools and intend to distribute 115 walking canes for the blind in Nepal (which is currently stuck with the Customs Authorities). I love Nepal and intend to live there for the rest of my life - God willing!