Hi I have been living in Nz for ten yrs came here when i was 16 with my parents. Now my parents want me to go back and do an arranged marriage. I havenot been to nepal after i have come here and I feeel like i have become more of a kiwi. I am getting confused about how I may be able to get married to a guy whom i have never met, talked or known. But my parents say that this is a common thing for nepalese. Its not that i am against arranged marriage but i don't think i can do it. Some of my cousins have done it and they are happy with it. But then again everyone is different. If i want to go there to get married i have to leave my job and career. My father is a very traditiopnal minded person and believes that a woman is not complete wityhout marriage. I am siongle so it has become even easier for them to pester me into marriage.I however would like to settle down with somebody here if I can find someone but at present there is no guy in hte horizon and I want to take it slow. Perhaps I may not even get married who knows!! I don't want to rush into arranged marriage because there are many arranged marriages that look really good on hte sutrface but inside many problems are there. Every day my parents tell me you will be all alone!! Marriage is a natural thing. You will get old. these are some of the common things they say. the problemis i don't even know who to and talk to I can't go and talk about my problems with a white person or counselers cause this is a completely cultural issue. So ai have been carrying this load in my head all day long. My parents will never understand me. Should I leave my house or do as they tell me to. thanks