It is a very unusual thread in Sajha, as it is too personal to deal with. Sajha Kurakani is filled with advisors, consultants, sympathisers,gurus etc, so I am no exception. Still, I think, this thread is too personal. Well, quick question to you. Did you think and analyze a lot prior marrying your current wife? I guess not!!! I think you are thinking more right now than before marrying this gal. Sometimes in life, what happens is, let's just take a chance, and see what happens- but that becomes costly. So long as Divorce, I guess you won't loose that much by divorcing her, but your wife will loose a lot- perhaps her own identity.