As I said, arranged marriage itself means seeking the match within own community. Regarding pode/chame, it's not true in every household. I'd allow them in my house. We've allowed them earlier but they were not practicing the same old professions. I'm confused by your statement of finding 'unity'. We need to erase our 'narrow-mindedness' and see not only newars irrespective of religion but every other race as same, and interest to learn and respect about other cultures. I'm more optimistic than you about the time frame you've mentioned.