Dear Racheeta, I understand what your problem really is and I feel sorry for you but you know to be in love with somebody shouldn't hurt. In pleased and strong relationships partners try not to hurt each other — even when they get irritated. We all get angry every now and then and when we do we have a preference — we can articulate our thoughts in a healthy way or we can harm someone. No one deserves to be hit for any cause. Hurting somebody — physically, emotionally, or sexually — is not okay, even if it is "just playing around." Someone who is aggressive toward another person needs to get help. Trust your instincts. If you feel you are being treated imperfectly, you most likely are. It can be complicated for people to know if their relationship is superior for them. We all deserve to be happy. Most of us want to be happy in healthy and affectionate relationships. There are few basic qualities that make up a healthy relationship. They are love, trust, honesty,fairness and good communication. Are these traits a part of your relationship? If not all of them are, or if you're not sure about some of them, you may want to regard as talking with your family, someone in a relationship you admire, a trusted friend, or a counselor. You might also want to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE — they can give you a local number to a center near you.