hey mabf, i kinda took a look at all the things u had to say n all the things that ppl had to say about u n ur situation.....i am not an expert in this matter but if u go according to me n if u trust this lady...... dont tell ur wife anything about any of this stuff. but then this is IF u TRUST this lady with ur deepest n darkest secret of ur life...... i mean u obviously love ur wife....u r a Fu**ed up guy....no comments on that...u already messed up ur life real bad....not only urs..but think about ur wife n think bout that unborn baby.....they r gonna have to suffer BCOZ of ur freakin "love"...... the best thing to do so as to make it up to ur wife...i.e, if u can make up for the blunder that u already made..which i highly doubt....but the closest thing would b to dedicate ur life to ur family..to ur wife n kid..... tellin her the truth will jus make things worse....n at time like this when shes pregnant ..believe me she does not need this shit...... its better to keep quiet n live ur life n keep ur family happy.... but this option is only if u think u can do it.....only if u can dedicate ur life to ur wife n forget each n every thing about ur past....that way u n ur family can live a nice life..... its gonna b hard on ur part if u r true but then u get wot u do......... hope this helped u ..... aite peace jai nepal