I dont have any sympathy for a man like you. You are what I would call a parasite who sucks into other people's blood. I mean seriously, you love both your wife and that girl.. how pathetic is that? Plus it is plainly obvious that you were having sex with both of them at the same time and that one of them got pregnant you decided that it is upto you to make a decision for all three of you!! The truth is that you have already screwed up your wife's life. (I would not say you screwed up your or your mistress' life because both of you made decisions knowing the truth!!) If you divorce her she will have to live through the humiliation of a divorce if she finds out and decides to divorce you otherwise she will have to live with you and see your pathetic loser face all her life. And now she is pregnant so if she divorces you, she will probably face worse consequences... i.e having to raise the kid by herself. If you had thought from your brain instead of your genitals, your life would have been simpler!!