I think the best solution is this: Hang out with other girls and try to date someone. When you and your ex get in contact, tell her how great the new girl is and bla bla bla. This will surely affect her and she will come running back to you. Of course, since she dumped you in the first place already, I think it's not worth your while or hers, to get back in a f'ed up relationship. Just ignore her messages. Of course, you might wanna talk to her or something, since you are a wounded soul. But resist all these urges. My love doctor tells me that "you should never get back with your ex". The other thing he tells me is that "once a woman's interest level has dropped below 49%, there is no salvaging it." And looking at your situation, I think it's well below 40% on her side. So leave this mess and go ahead and find other better girls. And do learn from your mistakes. If you don't realize, let me tell you what your mistake was. Did you notice how she was all over you when you didn't treat her as well as after when you came back from abroad (after which you treated her like your "master"). That's the exact problem. A relationship is mutual. When you didn't care too much, she prolly thought " Wow, this is a challenge. I will fight for his attention." But after, she was like "I can treat him like a door mat and still he won't complain." I am not saying that the situation was exactly like I describe. It is approximate. So the only way you can keep a woman and marry her is if you can have that "challenge factor". do not ever be her door mat. do not be too serious (which I feel you were and which you still are). don't beg and grovel for her attention (which you did with that long email). If u wanna be a man, act like one. Noone will give you that respect if you don't earn it.