I have talked about this in detail on other threads before, but in summary, it is ultimately economic issues that are likely to triumph in the long term. However, our small sense of ourselves could be the gating factor that stops us from pushing economics to the forefront of India-Nepal relations. The best, and most realistic way, in my opinion to get respect from India is to acquire that ultimate thing that everyone, including India, respects: money. In a globalized world, money will be the new currency of power. Whether we like it or not, our economic destiny is tied to India's in many ways (hydro power, leveraging cheaper labor in Nepal for lower cost goods and services, sub-contracting Western work to cheaper Nepali firms etc etc). Mostly baby steps over the years that we need to take to make our economy more competitive and conducive to business. That's in brief - there was a thread earlier on this with more details. Will post the link if I can find it. Have a good one. :)