Vincent Bodega - Well said. I completely agree that we cannot look at every situation with the same lens. One mans ceiling is another man's floor and the same situation in life can teach two different people two very different things. In that spirit, I could not resist offering this thought : the moral that I take away from the story is not to abandon your principles but rather to take the time to pause, reflect and think over them whenever you can. After all, it was the Mandela who came out of jail, and not just the one who went into jail, who was able to have such a profound impact on others. Had he not paused to forgive those who committed injustices against him during all those years , would he still have been what he was? Dont mean to be argumentative, offense or pedantic but your thoughtful response to Loote brought on a bit of a pensive mood , hence the response :)