Bob Marley i hope you didn't smoke a pot before you wrote that piece above.i agree with what you said about showing our culture before marrrying a foreigner.but , while people are in love they think they can bear whatever comes in between the relation, including culture, for some people it turns out to be wrong. in Americca more than than 60% fo the people get divorce do you count all of them stupid. " to make error is human but to forgive is divine". the main thing is you have to learn from your mistakes. just because some of your friends and your relation worked doesn't mean everyone else relation will work. going to a bar doesn't make you a bad person. another thing in a bar you see people from the street, to doctors to engineers , everyone who goes to bar are not necessarly bad people. if you met someone in bar what's wrong with that, if you get hooked up with a bad one then that too bad. you seems to be one of those people who goes to mandir and church to look for honeys, assuming that everyone who comes in a mandir or church are good ladies. lots of nepalese marry us citizens thinking the relation would work for some it does work for some it don't. for some people circumstances pushes them to marry a us citizen even though that might have not been the right choice. you have to be in that person's shoes before you judge that person. not everyone can go through 10 yrs of school just hoping to get a H1b and if you are lucky enough gc.some people choose the easy way marry a citizen hoping the relation would work and they can get gc. it's human nature to find easy way for any problem. i bet, some where in the corner in your mind you were also thinking about gc before you married your wife. think twice before you call some one stubborn bastard . man i can go on and on .................... all night about this shit any way i am going to end now............... thanks everyone.