Scorpiomam, I agree with you. In the scenario you have mentioned, it is hard to control oneself especially in the west. I am a practical man and I know what happens in real life. However, I won't have sex with my partner until we are committed for the life long relationship no matter how long we have been together. In case if I happen to have sex without commitment, I would take it as a mistake. I disagree with them who think that the people who has premarital sex are sluts. People make mistakes and those who don't consider it as a mistake are victim of their view. There are many people who believe in different philosophy, and freedom for sex is one of them. I have repeatedly been saying that virginity is not important, what really important is the person and his/her view. If the person see no harm in sexual freedom, he/she is wrongly viewed person, don't ever get associated with him/her unless you feel the same way. You don't know how much psychological torture you will get if you come to know that your partner is committing sexual misconduct. I have been repeatedly saying that it brings a great psychological turmoil. Even if you are doing sexual misconduct yourself you will not be able to stop the jealousy if you find your partner is doing the same..... as you can not stop anger and lust you will not able to stop jealousy; believe me! Such a life will be quite miserable.... You will find hell in life.. This is why wise people condemn sexual misconduct. If a person have had sex before in his/hers committed relationship and for some reason the relationship failed, don't make big deal out of it. See the heart of the person, which is most important. If the person had had sex before without commitment and realizes as mistake, forgive him/her and don't make big deal out of it. Keep one thing always in mind that you live at present moment. You partner should be wise at present; s/he should have right views at present; that is all counts. .. Look for a partner with whom you will live happily...you can live happily with one who is wise and condemn sexual misconduct.. You can never live happily with one who believe there is nothing wrong with sexual misconduct................... Another fact; don't hide anything with your would be partner about your past. Tell everything good or bad and wrong or right you have done in your past. That will enhance your honor. I always claim that I speak logically and rationally...... Any doubt mam? :)!