My dear pal Loote - I hear you, bud! I personally think it is difficult, if not impossible, to post freely on Sajha if you are double and/or not anonymous. Especially if you are more outgoing than your partner and their perception of flirting is different from yours. It causes too much heart burn for both people, no? :) Regardless of whether you are the guy or girl posting on Sajha. Wishing you domestic bliss, virtual and real, and a good life :) Still allowed to post but wondering when the axe is coming, CH :D