I realized that I have posed rather an ethical question to SimpleGal rather than something related to psychology. haami, It is very easy to tell others that you have to 'understand', but when you have to personally deal with the situation, it’s rather difficult. It is not that easy to understand when you get hurt. When you can’t understand why the person is doing the thing he/she is doing. Like you said, every action has reaction. So the harm inflicted by someone will create some reaction to a person who doesn’t yet know that the person is ‘abnormal’. And when that person will affect not only you, but your loved ones too then you might start losing your patience. How can you make everybody understand that there is a reason behind the crimes and verbal abuse? Labeling someone for having personality disorder is rather creating a pity for the person; to create a way to forgive and a way to understand. And I totally respect that. loote, Which ice are you talking about? I’m lost here :S I believe every one of us has some sort to disorder (low to medium), hence no one is perfect. So I don’t mind if someone tells me if I have one :P cause I know who I am. I’m talking about extreme cases here…I’m talking about people with whom you might not ever have to deal with in your life. If some kind of disorder is only in 1% of population, then you have to be lucky to deal with the person (without knowing the person has disorder) :P keep calm and drink plenty of water everyone! :D