thanks a lot guys. i dont actually incite him, its my attitude, i would say. i dont want to have sex , especially not with him, may be in future, who knows? but is there any way to confront him and tell him my emotions? i mean....couldn't we just stay like friends? and besides, my girlfriend thinks i'm a bitch ! she hates me and doesn't talk to me whenever me and him are together. i dont want to lose my girlfriend cuz i am safe with her rather than this hunk! at the same time, i dont wat to depress him or make him feel bad because he has done so many things for me from searching for apartment, household, breakfasts, school help everything. aaaaaaaargh! somebody pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease help!