Yes camo, I meant it for both the parties both men and women in general in a utopian society. loote and thapap, I made the statements based on the assumptions that we’re brought up in nepali culture and the marriage is not an arranged one. And I am not even talking about relationship between the couples. I assume that there is a good relationship and understanding and trust between them. So in our society, even in love marriage, females reside with her inlaws after getting married. In that case, doesn’t it become more important for a man to become a good mediator? There will be a level of trust between people who’ve know each other for sometime. I don’t think people can readily trust or love or respect someone based just on relationship (between inlaws). It takes time to build a real relationship….time that has to be spent communicating. Of course, I’m more biased towards women, because our society is more biased towards men and I’m just trying to balance it out :P Captain, what can I say…almost all men I’ve known so far are tongue-tied in front of their parents. Maybe I haven’t lived enough to see more men :P