hahahahahaha.... sajhauser wrote ....Communication and understanding are two obvious methods of resolving relationship problems, but the problem can become a mountain out of a molehill if one doesn’t know how to communicate or if he/she doesn’t have capacity to understand (because of personality disorders). u seem to have quite a strong grip in this personality disorder thingy. i know where your argument is coming from but does it always have to be this very reason for misunderstanding? :P I think, generally, a man has to act as a middle-person between his wife and his parents (or friends), and vice versa, because he is the one who understands both the parties. what about women? can't they take the initiative and try to bind relationships together. agree that man knows both the parties. but what if both the parties have 'personality disorders' (in your terminology)? :P IMO, it all boils down to understanding, trust and respect for each other and for the families. and of course, it should be mutual. moreover and most importantly,sometimes, one may need to put his/her ego under check and give in to others for the greater benefits of the family. "tali ek hatle bajdaina", but one hand can always go looking for the other and embrace it, if the latter is not ready to take the initiative. euta le purba arko le paschim heri rakhyo bhane ta ek le arko lai dekhna pani sakidaina, tali bajaaune kura ta parako ho, haina ra? :P LooTe