I don’t think a person with a sane mind would not want to be a part of a family; after all it’s a human nature to want to be a part of the society. Well… things will be beyond control if the relationship has already become sour and people have already given up on each other. But in the beginning, I think everyone would want to be a part of a family. I think because of the difference in attitude, some people get along and some don’t. The question thapap is, for how long can a person say sorry for the mistakes one has not committed? There is limitation to everything. You might want to find a girl who can tolerate everything :P But I don’t think it’s healthy to tolerate everything as it discourages the change needed in the society. Yes, problem does arise in a family if the “middle-person” cannot play her part. I don’t mean to generalize, but most guys cannot open their mouth in front of their parents. I think sometimes a lot of problem could be solved, if one could accept his/her own incapability and take some measure on improving her weakness. If one expects his wife to get along with his parents (despite of the differences in attitude between wife and parents), then he will have to play a big role in improving the relationship. But if the middle person doesn’t bother on walking that extra mile, then relationship deteriorates. And it will of course require cooperation from each member, not only from the spouse. Like they say, “ek haat le tali bajdaina”, even the parents need to cooperate to some extent. Yes, it’s not that easy when there is difference in attitude!