sajhauser and sndy, now time to poke hole in your arguments. " chamero ko kahani tha chha hola ni hoina" " testo dui tirai milauna khojne husband haru will be " na ta swasni ko huna sakchan na ta bau/aaama or the family ko nai huna sakchhan" now from my perspective these things needs to be communicated to "female/male" prior to marriage. what he/she is getting into. not the rosy picture of life. but the baggage that the GUY/GIRL is bringing with him/her. say his/her family obligations and relationship. what is his/her expectation and role in family. you NEED NOT KNOW ANYONE TO ACCEPT THEM. YOU JUST NEED TO BE OPEN. if you STOP PASSING JUDGEMENTS on people then it would be lot simpler. and EGO will be a root cause of ALL misunderstandings. IF you can bow down and say sorry for even something you have not done "KISSA KHATAM" . if either partner is willing to do that then there is a PERFECT bondage (O: just my dreams (O: =================================================== and as always what do i know (O: