Bostongirl - When I first saw this thread, my heart went out to you and the least I thought I could do was stay out of it because I felt my presence and comments would not be wanted. I actually felt bad that we happened to have our somewhat heated conversation on the same day that you had so many other things going on. May be it was Hindu guilt but I did sincerely wish your circumstances were different - and I would have wished that even if we hadn't had our conversation. I am commenting now for two reasons. The first, and less important of the reasons, is because my name came up in your response to TM and I can't honestly say I was at ease with what was said. While there is still a part of me that wants to opine on the subject, I have decided not to because that would defeat the purpose of why I chose to stay out and would undo the sense of closure I feel about this issue. I don't know about you, but this has become one beaten and dead horse and I have no interest in resuscitating it and spending another minute on it. The other reason, the more important one, is to wish you the best. I wish there was something I could say or do that would make things better for you in your personal life. I don't think I am qualified in any way to analyze this situation or you, your boyfriend and your parents - perhaps you are the only one who is. But what I can say is I hope you find the strength to tide over this and also find the answers you are looking for and the peace you deserve. I think it was Robert Schuller who said "Tough times don't last, but tough people do" and I'd like to leave that thought and my well wishes with you.