Boston girl,It sounds very complex love story. This is not first one , I heard here. Look I got two friends, they married with non-Nepali guys. one friend, reeta was in love with him for 6 years. Even they stayed one year in Nepal. But since they married and come to USA , it chenged everything. the guy try to dominate her emotionally and mentally. Eventhough she was highly educated. One day, he brings the other gal in home and tell her to make drink and dinner for her. Neeta was just living formal life with me, there was not real bond with them, it was like that for 3 years , finally she divorce and lost her precious 9 years with bastards. This is same stories for so many of my friends. Boston girl, Ur Parents love u so much and want best for u always. U seems very very smart, In my opinon, this is risky mode of ur life, try to tackle it. Remember, Parents are always there for you to help, ashish, australia