The most interesting and believable case I have read in Sajha. However, your last post stirred the pot completely. You mentioned that you said you love him and ARE going to marry him. But you put the proposal off. If that's true then your boy friend will understand (as long as you said you will eventually marry him). If that part wasn't highlighted in your conversation, then your BF might be taking his time to analyze the situation whether he should continue to subject him to this or not. If he loves you that much, he will come back. Did you mess up? No, u did the right thing. That is going to be the right thing in a long run (that also tells the boy that you still value your family, and then you both might make an effort to reconcile the differences between two parties). Again, you didn't reject him outrightly. Justice wasn't denied. Court wanted a recess.