After all is said and done I think the main point here is that people who go out to eat expect to have a good time, to be served well and greeted by the staff and to enjoy themselves to the fullest. I really don't think Nepalese people are so wicked in the first place to want to "khutta tano" I think on the contrary we feel a sense of pride at the success of our fellow brothers and sisters and wish them well in their ventures. But when we meet our own we expect to exchange a few words of kindness and I think that is evaporating in the young generation ( or the so called modern era) they think that if people talk to them they are being nosy. Politeness and respect has been a prominent quality of any Nepalese person and it should remain that way. the world will be a better place to be in.