Posted by: highvoltage October 27, 2006
My people & the problem!
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hi cleo, read ur problem.the words u used and the psychology u wrote with is really looking for an honest and a genuine suggestion.i may not b a good advisor but of course can share some thoughts.as far as human nature is concerned, it gets changed automatically coz of his environment and specially due to the circle e.g. frens et colleagues etc or someone special with whom u have a great attachment.for example u have a great attachment with someone n he does not care about ur feelings or just does not respect u , then u get changed.u get reflected.it happens unknowingly.similarly u r completely mixed up with the people of another thinkings n society n nature.u stated"I kind of dislike everything about him( I mean not the person)" but u said somewhere before "he is nice and a nepali in every possible way".ur sentences contradict each other.what do u mean by nepali in every possible way? manners? way of talking?attitude?dress-up?personality?? there is nothing wrong with that person neither with u.it is just a sudden change of social contact.u r being used to with another kind of society and u have learnt to deal with people in another way.u find his behaviours awkward.it is just the matter of time.once u start laughing together u forget how he chews his food. what i want to say is u r not bad in urself,not at all or else u wouldnt be disappointed saying m feeling bad about myself.why should u?when u say urself he is a nice guy that means u have positiveness in u and ur words clearly reflect ur will of accepting the awkwardsness but u just don know how.i would suggest u to avoid what makes u feel awkward or what u dislike about him.just change the topic.start with something u both like.show a mango tree and say i would climb upon a tree and pluck it or ask would u hit the mango without the climbing but just don go for eating that mango by licking his hand when the juice drops down from hand or not?start with something beautiful.no one is perfect.u may be more civilized but everyone has his own way of thinking and u should respect him.no one knows may be the things u dislike about him now will teach u a great lesson in future.i would say just a matter of time.forget what u don like about him, think wow at least i found someone whom i can say "yaar'" or "k chha?" in my own language.everything will come out to be in ur favour with the passage of time. ASTU!!!
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