Too many skeptics around. But I believe you. Literate fool, you should be straightforward with your brother before the marriage. Girl_interrrupted's assesment to me sounds a tad weak and seems indicate that someone's been watching one too many daytime soap operas. Regardless of jealosy, the fact is he had sex with his potential bhauju. That's gotta be a much more significatn issue than jealosy. I personally dont think jealosy is a big issue here. Literate fool - you should be honest and straigthforward with your brother. If this marriage goes through, your brother will be closer to your wife in the long run than to you - since she will be the mother of his children. So you need to be a bit careful when you approach this issue both with your brother and with the "potential" wife.