just woke and basically basically dun mind wat im gonna type next hehe..i too dunno..but i feel its gonna be more hazy(forecast didnt say rainy and wet too did it?:o| hehe) than i normally am capable of ;oP ehe if the question was just "Is it OK to marry with an Indian"(be it a guy or a gal) ..i guess i say YES!its ok!why is not ok hoina?:o| hehe...basically do we have a choice of being born an indian or a nepali or watsoever? so whats the problem of being Indian?or Nepali?or wat not?hehe and of cos we do stereotype and generalise ppl..but aint it more for humour?to vent our frustrations on some arseholes who pisses us off with their attitudes and wat not?hehe and of cos we do assume others are doin the same stereotyping on us(since we are arseholes ourselves...if u dun think ur an arsehole..go to the mirror turn around, drop ur pants or watever ur wearing ..u might have to bend a bit since u know the arsehole is "hidden"?hehe..and look in the mirror u see an arsehole!its urs!as they say if u have one!ur one?hah ;oP hehe and not like i do that and check everyday..but u kow wat i mean?i had an 'eureka' moment once...im sure u all had that "eureka im am arsehole!' moment too?if not dun wait!i shared the secret didnt i?duh!;oP ) oops where was i?.. ok so he is an indian and lets just say that stereotypes do fall true for a lots of ppl(us)?since society and the environment we grow up in def moulds us in a lot of ways..plus each of us are an arsehole?"proved" it already didnt i?;oP but it seems we love to watch others arse(holeness) than our own?;oP hehe...but then again u mentioned "he is a thorough gentleman,well-educated and the family background is similar.....and above all this gentleman blindly loves the girl"..seems not too bad a lad?but oh well we always want more dun we?;oP hehe and kohinoor u did say ur fren(im assuming shes ur fren cos im sure u wont ask for opinions for an "enemy"?but then again who knows?;oP hehe) "ALWAYS wanted her future mate to speak nepali"? we do like to be logical dun we?..put in all the inputs..look at all pros and cons..and of cos if there are more pros then it seems the right thing to do..the right choice to make?if only everything was like maths hoina? and lookn at the 'inputs' u passed about the situation hehe..for me..if i was her i def wouldnt(and most prob i regret later for lettn go of such a good catch?hah ;oP *deleted some 'experience' talk* ;oP)but thats me..and of cos im not in ur fren's situation so its easy to type? ;oP..we never will know until we take the plunge hoina?but bihe ta not just about one person hoina?he be affected by it too?(lets not even go on about family and relatives ;oP hehe)i feel more scared for him(no im not being sexist here!;oP hehe)than ur fren right now esp from wat u shared here hehe...will she be willin to try change her mindset a bit and of cos will she ever forget her wish of "always wanting a nepali mate"?cos if she wont get over that?who suffer?both?hehe but yeah in the end..we make our own choices and have to live with them hoina?hopefully watever she chooses..it be good for her :oD... marriage apart...engagement sure does sound fine tho ;oP hehe..i mean marriage ta real serious committment ho..engagement chai of cos its serious committment too..but if u break an engagement it wont be as bad a divorce?sounds logical?hehe..plus think about the benefits of an engagement..if he is like u say..a gentleman blindly in love with her..an engagement might give him the chance and she notice him a bit more and see him for who he is..nepali or not ;o) hehe and im sure he learn some nepali when he is more often near her ;o) i mean i can just imagine meself givin out some lame absurd hindi dialogues if me wife was an indian(yeah im dreamin too much!:o| a wife re?as tho thats possible?:o| ;oP hehe)..u know..err smthing like..let me make tink of smthin hehe.."areyho mere pyari bibi..mai toh majak kaar raha tha!tum hara wo khubsoraat muskaan mujhko dhekhado na..wo muskaan tht makes my heart skip whenever i see it" hah!at least wrote some hindi words!err they are hindi arent they?:o| hehe anyways gotta make a decision again..(jaha pani decisions garnu parcha :oS hehe)..to click 'submit' or not hah!am half awake!dun really wanna make others sleep here :o| hehe..darn aint i nice?hah ;oP hehe good luck!and good day!:oD