US, going thru all your long posting what I found was Nepalese career oriented women who leave in America at least they have another chance ..that is adoption.You sounds like you are the voice of all those career oriented nepalese women who live in America. Having said that what you fail to recognize is there are tons of carrer oriented women who loves to have their own kids rather than adopting from other country. Just giving one or two general or personal examples does not speak for the rest of the carrier oriented nepalies women. If you want to take an example then my dad is well reputed dr. and my mother is more famous dr than my father. I don't see any tension between their carrer. Other than carrer issues hey its life there is always ups and downs. Also let me point out they raised us well. I am sure we turn out to be nice kids :P ;)