I on this subject have to side with IMI. I also think that nepalese are somehow screwed up in their head. And yes, an intensive counselling will be needed before getting anywhere. In USA and other developed countries people fight. But those people are special and minority. In Nepal almost everyone fights. Any occasion with gathering is an opportunity to beat up someone. Look at Indians for god's sake. They appear way more civilized when handling conflicts. They talk, argue no matter how loud but rarely beat up each other. We mock them for being coward when in fact they are being civilized and smart. Many of them come from the same kind of background like nepalese do. They share almost the same culture, their schooling nor the economic condition are any different from ours. Yet they come out much better than us in ways to go about in life. I have also been to many nepalese gathering, sporting events and there have almost always been trouble. If there isn't a fight, there is always criticizing and back biting about others and their success. Hardly anything good or productive is heard in those gatherings. It looks like we are always inclined to hurt others and put them down more than we are inclined to improve ourselves. I think it is cultural. I do not believe that we have a rich culture. Among most of the ethnic groups in Nepal, in my opinion, newars are the most cultured group and they always seems to have more fun filled activities, better food and more helpful to each other and above all less fights. It is those who have descended from "pahad" they seem to have trouble dealing with people and resolving differences. It is almost barbaric. And I think Indians have superior culture than ours and hence know better ways to handle conflict. It is almost like we nepalese are still evolving and are far behind than others.