i meant...its only a culture...like bratabanda is...only the name(bel sanga bya...he he heh) sounds weird...it's not like real marriage......i think little girls are happy to get dressed up and get gifts....and i think girls get respect.... :) it's called 'yeein' (n silent) in newari yes newari boys also go thru bratabanda......as far as i know all newari boys go thru bratabanda including buddhist newar...