Uh, okay, and you want us to feel sorry for you? No sympathy at all. Go cry on someone else's shoulders. I had a friend in a similar situation as yours, and I had to save his hide by donating him 5k. He was my friend, and I just couldn't say no to him, but I can't be sure if I'll ever get my 5k back. Why do I have to be put in this situation because of his own failures? The guy lived life like a mack daddy. Went gambling like he's a high roller. He has to buy new clothes every three months. I mean I can't be his goddamn babysitter. The problem was I just couldn't say no to him. My main beef here is that if you can't afford to come to America, don't! I am sick and tired of wasting my money babysitting some other people. It's been almost 3 years and he hasn't paid up yet. I think it's gone for good. I am seriously thinking of suing him. His credit card was maxed out last time we were together. He avoids me like I am the problem.