Assuming that the problem is genuine, I, Dr. Depression, would like to share my thoughts: 1) GRK - So you are not in love any more eh'? 5 years into the relationship, including a year living together, phew... that's serious stuff. And you have managed to pretend loving her day in and day out for about a year, right? Perhaps focusing on what made you love her for about 4 years, what ignited the fire between the too, and working towards bringing the magic, instead of hoping for it to reignite on its won is the solution. But if nothing works, and you, in the process even her, feel that it is futile, then, as hard as it may be, neither of you can afford to live in misery for another 50 years, for the sake of 5 years of togetherness. In any case, after some time the number of years becomes irrelevant. Give it your best shot, WORK towards bringing the magic back. TALK about it, albeit remember to be sensitive about the way you put it. And YES, you OWE it to her to be AS CONSIDERATE AS IS POSSIBLE and little more. But remember there is no right way to break a heart and no matter how you end it, there will be few cracks and I'm afraid it does look like the finger is pointed at you. Work on it, if it's futile; remember she deserves someone better than you. Perhaps this helps. You should do what burns your fire. --------------------------- Marygal, Do not stereotype all of us. I've seen many fairer kind doing absolutely worse than that. You can not typecast, and if you do, just remember, it takes two to tango. Now moving o to case (2) ...