I am in similar situation too but it is other way round. I have been in relationship with a girl for 5 years. everythign was going perfect. we were always happy. we lived together for sometime but because of education, we now are living in different state. everybody including our parents, friends and close relatives knows about it and i have already met with her parents too. parents were happy for us. suddenly about a month ago, i came to know that she is having an affiar with another guy. she cheated on me. how can she do that to me? i love her so much that i gave her everything i could. she knows it. she knows that i love her so much. but now she is just making excuses saying she is not happy becasue we are far. i do not listen to her and all. truth of the matter is, everybody who knows us knows that how much i love her and i always tried to make her happy. i could not believe that she did this to me. it was a biggest shock for me and i am totally broken. i always thoght that she is my life and everything. i am in depression now. i requested her to come back to me. her family has also asked her to come back to me and resolve any issue if she has with me. but she is so arrogant that she said she does nt care what other says. but i still want her. how can i pursue her to come back. is there anyways i can convince her. she is totally brain washed and does nt want to listen to anyone except that new guy in her life. she does whatever he says. she is playing with so many lifes at one time. what can be done so that she will come back to me?? suggestion please?